Love is, well, loving. And it’s lasting. Yeah, that’s kind of important. Here’s what infatuation in an early dating relationship can look like:
“You make my life better.”
“You actually want someone like me.”
“Are you sure I’m your guy?” (They’re seeking their self-worth and need of love from you. They need to find that in God, because you will never satisfy them the way they need. They need God.)
“You are a blessing from God.”
“I’m lucky to have you.”
“You are the light of my life.” (Take it as a compliment. You are showing Jesus to them in their broken but healing state of being, and that’s our calling as Christians and as sisters in Christ.)
“You are what I look forward to every day.” (You brought them joy. Maybe you were meant to just be a blessing to them for that time. Look to God. Look to God.)
“I don’t deserve you.”
Just because a guy says these things doesn’t necessarily mean he’s infatuated with you. His love may be real, and these words may be the outpouring of the true love in his heart. But if they’re not followed up by real, Christlike love, then they’re worth nothing.
All those things above are affection, and they’re great. But they won’t last. This is what happens later on if the “love” was only infatuation:
“When life gets rough, I don’t want you anymore.”
“When difficulties and challenges come, I’ll give up on you, and on us.”
“I don’t want you in my life anymore.”
“The first few months were great, but I just don’t think we’re a good fit anymore.”
“We don’t want you in our lives anymore.”
“Be who I want you to be, or leave.”
“You don’t have to be perfect… just, be perfect. Be who I need, want, desire.”
“Be the kind of person we want, or leave. We don’t want you for who you are.”
“I meant those things when I said them, but I don’t mean them now. Things have changed.”
That, unfortunately, is infatuation. For those of who have been through that, I’m sorry. I know it hurts a lot. Just remember that God’s got a guy out there who will love you as He intended you to be loved. Have faith, love, and courage.
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