I ran into this issue first when I was off at university. I was a good friend with a gal who chose to become a homosexual our second year of university. She had been my suitemate the first year, and we’d had a lot of good times together. She was beyond cheerful and was always barging into my room in the middle of homework, wanting to talk about life, or just chat, or do my nails for some “girl time.” She was a cheerful nuisance, and I loved her.
I was there when she needed a last-minute (it was always last-minute with her) ride to the train station to catch a ride home. We listened to Skillet (a Christian band) on the way. She told me I reminded her of a friend she’d had before leaving for university. Her friend was a Christian and loved Celtic stuff as much as I did. I was her voice of reason, gently speaking to her when she told me about some of her nonChristian (think party life) friends back home, and some stuff they got into. I was there when she came back to her dorm room drunk and tried to get some food and water into her.
In some ways, perhaps I should have seen the her homosexual choice coming. One day she asked me to return a book to the library for her. It was about gay life. I thought it was for a class, and didn’t ask her about it. Later, she told me about one of her friends, and their choice to become gay. The gay community was pretty big at WWU. Several of my classmates were gay (when you’re in nonfiction classes, reading each other’s writings, you learn a lot about your classmates). I spoke up gently and with Truth when the topic came up, but my gal friend and I never discussed it in depth.
When the news came that she’d chosen to become a homosexual, I was heartbroken and asked her if I could meet with her to talk (this was my second year off at university, and she was in another dorm). I talked to one of my Christian suitemates, asking if she knew if Campus Christian Fellowship had resources or leaders who could address homosexuality (my Christian suitemate gave me the weirdest look when I asked that, but I didn’t really care if she thought I was referring to myself. She could think whatever she wanted about me–and later did–and it wouldn’t matter).
And then I went and talked with my (now) homosexual friend. Her face was hard and set, and I think she already knew what I had to say. She had changed, somehow. She was no longer the carefree, childlike girl I’d become friends with. She had walked straight into a lie, and I could practically hear the devil laughing in demonic pleasure. Her church had praised her for “knowing how much God loved her,” and stepping into this lifestyle. And I’m sure all her nonChristian friends praised her “bold” choice as well. But I didn’t, and she knew I wouldn’t.
She quoted the Bible verse to me of the woman caught in adultery She told me that no one should cast stones at her. But she forgot the last part of that story, where Jesus tells the woman, “Go and sin no more.” Yes, the point of that accounting in John 8 is that none of us humans are without sin, and we are not to condemn. But the other facet of that story is about the woman caught in adultery, and what Jesus told her: “Go and sin no more.” There are two things in there. The first is that the woman was sinning. And the second was that Jesus was telling her leave her sinful lifestyle behind.
When I left that meeting with my friend, I was heartbroken. The devil had lured in yet another child into his trap, and her sin would lead to death.
We are to speak in love and truth. I think that is what God has called us to do. Speak in love. But remember that love is not a warm, mushy feeling. Love is tough love.
And you need to speak the truth. Here is the truth. Let us look to God’s Word:
“Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable” (Leviticus 18:22, NIV).
“Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error” (Romans 1:26-27, NIV).
The Bible says homosexuality is evil. It is wrong. It is an abomination to God. It is detestable. It is not the way God designed us. God made Adam in the Garden, and then made Eve for Adam. THAT is God’s design. Anytime we mess with God’s design, we are sinning.
I think there is a blessing to this day and age we live in though. It is sad that people live out their homosexuality in such “free” abandon (they are deceived. So very deceived if they think they are free). BUT I think there may be a blessing in there (this is just my personal opinion though, so take it with a grain of salt). It is a lot easier to know who is a homosexual, and so it is easier to minister to them. They are not hiding. They are in the open. Let us take this as a chance to minister. Let us speak life, love, and truth into their lives. And may God transform them. Amen.
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