How to Date, That is the Question


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Dating is intersecting your life with another’s path.

There are a lot of Christian guys out there. That’s a fact.

Date–don’t date. Court, don’t date. “Wait” for that right one. 

Blah. There’s a lot of advice out there. And here I am, adding my voice to it all. But let me put it out there in a way that I wish the other Christian writers had: the following is my personal opinion. It is not fact. It is simply what I have observed in my life and in the lives of others, and am now presenting to you. So, take it with a grain of salt.

Here goes.

  • Dating provides you with a committed relationship in which to get to know a person. The purpose of dating is to see if they are the kind of person you’d want to marry. But don’t stress. God has got it under control. He knows your future, and He’ll walk with you every step of the way. So don’t be afraid.
  • You’ll want to get to know the heart of a person when you’re dating them. You want to see how they treat others, and how they treat you (that in and of itself will provide a ton of insight into who they are). How they treat those around them will show their heart more than any other thing.
  • Consider being around them for three or so months, at least. I’ve noted that that is about how long it takes for their “good person” facade to wear off if they’re not genuine people. If they’re putting on a front, they won’t be able to show it off forever.
  • Look for key traits in their life. If they serve in the church but tread on you and others, what does that say about their heart? There are plenty of “Christian” people who go to church but don’t live their lives to please God. I’ve seen that played out over, and over, and over. Look for their heart, and ask God to give you a spirit of discernment.

Well, there you go! This is what I’ve learned so far as I’ve followed my feet. May you find these words a blessing to you. And may God blow away the chaff and let the wheat be planted. Amen.



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